maybe we should look at the parents of these young folks who can't make it. they were the ones allowing the kid to fuck off. the ones who didn't bother to stay up on the grades and activities of the kid. the ones who left the kid on his own 5 nights a week so they could go out. or the ones who raised the kid with no structure in their life , no family traditions, no encouragement to be someone. someone better than they were. and the ones who rather than parenting the kid just gives them money to go away. or how about the ones who showed the kid no skill at all. none, because they didn't know shit, or were too lazy to bother. always easy to blame the game, not the player